If you have read ‘Beat The Bully’ you may recall I mentioning how I had recently been bullied within a social organisation that I belonged to, yet was certain as well that I would have the problem sorted out. Well in this post, I would like to update you as to what has happened and as such, why I feel that writing out my experience can help purge the soul. I would also like to explain why I didn’t name the organisation in which this took place within; and why I plan to name it now and get it all off my chest.
Well to begin with, since the writing of the book, I am no longer a member of the social organisation in question. Which organisation is this I am referring to? Well the organisation in which the bullying took place within was Rotaract, the 18-30 version of the Rotary foundation. Now I would like to add that in my opinion, Rotaract (and Rotary) themselves are fantastic organisations. They have both done excellent work, campaigning for vast charitable causes.
Unfortunately with every group which grows to a certain size, it will naturally gain a few bad apples in it and in my opinion, (based only on my personal experience,) the same has happened within Rotaract; I say that from the bullying that I experienced when in Rotaract. This bullying was instigated by a few people from a club which I used to belong to, before deciding to leave that club and join another club, within the same 1090 district. Unfortunately one of the bullies (Linda) happened to also make several strides forwards in the foundation as well.
Well since then, I have left the district of Rotaract which I was a member of, one of the reasons for this being that despite reporting the bullying to various members of the rotary district council, my reports seemed to only go up a certain level in the chain of command, before fizzing out. I had to actually report the bullying through three different channels between July-November, and though some avenues looked like they were about to work, I was informed that the only real resolution was ‘Mediation.’ Now don’t get me but I think it is impossible to mediate with a bully, I mean what sort of agreement was I supposed to come up with Linda (who as you may recall from my book, used to mock me for being vegetarian and insult me for having Dyspraxia – a learning disability).
Anyhow not much was happening until the initial self-publication of my book ‘Beat The Bully: A Guide To Dealing With Adult Bullying.’ On finding out that I had written this book where I’d outlined some of the bullying which I had received, I had a meeting with one of the members of the rotary district council. Within this meeting, I mentioned how no offense was meant by the book, adding that even in this addition of the book; I had changed the names of the bullies, etc to respect their identities.
Yet I was further told that I needed to remove ‘Rotaract’ and any reference to it from future prints off my book, which is the reason why it is referred to now simply as ‘Social organisation.’ I was further informed by Rotary district council representative that by including the name of the social organisation within my book meant I could be done for liable.
So three months down the line, why have I decided to reveal this on the ‘Beat The Bully’ site? Well the reason for this is because of the unfairness which I have experienced within during my last days within this Rotaract/Rotary district. These can be outlined as;
1. I had to wait for number of months from reporting it to something been done, regularly pestering the people in rotary district council about what was taking place (I been bullied for being vegetarian and having had a special need).
2. After the meeting I had with the rotary representative, I was informed that all the information would get passed up to the head of the rotary district council, where a decision would be made. I can inform you that a month later (by time I had left) I still hadn’t heard anything back.
3. Looking back, it is my opinion that Rotary district council were more interested in making the situation disappear (or at the very least, keep it quiet). I say this for after the publication of my book, it was implied by Rotary district council representative that I could be done for liable if I mentioned the name of the organisation in future publications of my book, as well as being sued by the bully in question.
Now don’t get me wrong but looking back over what has happened, I feel that I have been bullied by few people (quite hurtfully) and as such, reported it to the official channels within the organisation, who in my opinion were trying to sweep the whole thing under the carpet. As such, I have left but even to this day, still feel slightly sick and angry at the way things turned out. As such, I feel that writing this would help get it off my chest.
Please don’t get me wrong though, I am not trying to say that all of Rotary were trying to silence my bullying claims, far from it. Unfortunately in my time as a member, I have learned that Rotary foundation is made up of many districts, each with various clubs within them and run by a general district council. It is of my opinion that it just so was that in the district council which I found myself within, there were a few bad apples who happened to fulfil certain positions and would rather have made their district look good rather than deal with the bullying within it (though I can’t be certain, I am sure that I was not the only person being bullied within this district).
So this is the update of what has happened since the writing of my book. As such, I can now say that since leaving the district, I am happily undertaking new pastures and would like to assure any of you reading this who are being bullied at the moment (even by the guy at the top of your organisation) don’t despair if you feel that leaving is the only option. Sometimes the most wisest decision one can make when confronted with a bully in power is to leave rather than stay and try fight a battle where the odds are stacked against them.